Do you often walk away from people wondering if you said the right thing? Or maybe you find yourself constantly feeling like you’re not good enough. And then there are those who don’t feel like it’s okay to be themselves for one reason or another, which holds them back from sharing their real gifts with the world.
Most people are concerned about what others think about them, and often say and do things just to get the approval of others. These thoughts and behaviors seem to be so much a part of who we are that we assume it’s just part of being human. But you can actually eradicate these thoughts and behaviors by eliminating the deep-seated limiting beliefs that cause them.
On today’s Broken Brain Podcast, our host, Dhru, talks to Shelly Lefkoe, co-founder and Vice President of Lefkoe Institute, a San Francisco Bay Area firm whose mission is “To significantly improve the quality of life on the planet by having people recreate their lives and live as the unlimited possibilities they are.” Shelly has had the privilege of helping thousands of clients worldwide rid themselves of a wide variety of problems including phobias, relationships that never seem to work, violence, procrastination, unwillingness to confront people, health and wellness issues, and sexual dysfunction. Her clients have been able to eliminate emotional patterns such as fear, hostility, shyness, anxiety, depression, worry about what people think of them, and a negative sense of themselves.
In this episode, Dhru and Shelly talk about limiting beliefs and how they are formed. They discuss how most behavior is driven by our deeply ingrained and typically unconscious beliefs, and how we can reframe the negative meaning we have given to a particular situation to break through limiting beliefs. They also talk about parenting and how by being conscious in the way we raise our children we can create more confident, kind generations.
In this episode, we dive into:
- What underlies every problem that people have (2:13)
- What are beliefs and when do they stop serving us (3:41)
- Why you should stop worrying about what other people think of you (9:22)
- Where our beliefs get formed (10:41)
- Why our beliefs stay with us for so long (20:55)
- The belief that ruins people’s lives (32:38)
- What couples fight about the most (47:27)
- How meaning is related to beliefs (48:18)
- Why what you do is not who you are (59:26)
- Learn more about Shelly and her work (1:02:06)
I know you’ll love this episode of The Broken Brain Podcast as much as I did.
Wishing you health and happiness,
Mark Hyman, MD
PS – For more on Shelly Lefkoe, be sure to follow her on Facebook @LefkoeInstitute and check her website http://lefkoeinstitute.com and http://www.recreateyourlife.com. You also can learn more about her program Parenting the Lefkoe Way, right here.