What’s the difference between being necessarily hard on yourself versus unnecessarily?
Being necessarily hard on yourself is essential for growth and becoming the best version of yourself. It’s allowing you to face a challenge, step outside of your comfort zone, or push yourself to deal with something difficult. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.
However, being unnecessarily hard on yourself, beating yourself up after a “failure,” or being judgemental or hypercritical of yourself (or others) gets in the way of creating the life you desire.
In today’s Big Idea Tuesday, Dhru discusses exactly why you’re so hard on yourself, but more importantly, how to stop.
He covers three big concepts to recognize when we fall into this mindset:
- Being self-critical and/or hard on yourself has consequences.
- A lot of the self-critical thoughts we have are not our own.
- There’s always something in it for us, why else would we keep doing it?
Dhru says there’s a reason we keep our patterns alive, but awareness is key to breaking free.
Tune in to hear more.
Also mentioned in this episode: Broken Brain Podcast episode featuring Dr. Dan Siegel, this episode featuring Dr. John Kelly, and this episode featuring Peter Crone. Here’s the article from Current Psychiatry 2016, the article from Bassam Tarazi, this Realistic Optimist Graphic, and this website from Dr. Kristin Neff.