Why Some Relationships Don’t Last with Esther Perel



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As human beings, relationships are fundamental to who we are. We know that relationships can be a big source of happiness and fulfillment in our lives, but they can also be a major source of stress. So, why is it that we often find relationships so hard?

This week on The Dhru Purohit Podcast, Dhru sat down with Esther Perel to talk about how we can begin to navigate roles, expectations, and flexibility in our relationships, how we are under pressure not only to have the perfect relationship, but also to portray this illusion to others, and why so many couples get it wrong when trying to solve differences.

Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author, and is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 30 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into nearly 30 languages. Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How’s Work? Her latest project is Where Should We Begin – A Game of Stories with Esther Perel.

In this episode, we dive into:  

  • The need to be right in our relationships (7:00) 
  • Reflective listening and having the ability to see multiple truths (14:51)
  • Role models in relationships (18:23) 
  • Expectations in relationships (23:59)
  • The core pillars of why couples really fight (32:07)
  • Polarity in relationships (35:21) 
  • Questions we can ask our partner that allows us to step into their perspective (39:18) 
  • Where Should We Begin – A Game of Stories (49:01) 

For more on Esther Perel, be sure to follow her on Instagram @estherperelofficial, on Facebook @esther.perel, on Twitter @estherperel, on YouTube @estherperel, and through her website. You can find her board game Where Should We Begin – A Game of Stories, here. Listen to her podcast Where Should We Begin? here.

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