How To Move From Toxic Relationships And Sex To Healing Relationships And Sex

Episode 565 1h 7m


Relationships can feel complicated. We often go into them looking for others to fulfill whatever we refuse to give ourselves. We want our unmet needs to be met by this other person, without doing the inner work to help ourselves. Owning our needs actually makes it easier for other people to meet our needs. This sounds counterintuitive, but it’s one of those breakthroughs that can really turn toxic relationship patterns around.

Today I’m excited to share a conversation with my good friend Angelika Alana, all about tuning into our bodies, our physical and emotional needs, and healing our connection to ourselves and others. When it comes to failed relationships and sexual challenges, we can be pretty hard on ourselves. But these are two major areas of life we are never really taught how to succeed in.

Angelika is an amazing resource for doing the tough work that allows us to learn what we need, what we want, and how to communicate that to others in a safe and effective way. Sex is a hard topic for many people to talk about, whether it’s due to trauma, physical issues like pain, lack of pleasure, or any number of reasons. Angelika and I dig into how somatic therapy can help break down the walls we’ve put up around sex. She explains what somatic therapy entails and what some of the steps she takes with clients look like, as well as some inspiring success stories. Nervous system dysregulation is a common issue in negative relationship patterns, sexual dysfunction, and an overall feeling of unhappiness or anxiety. When we get comfortable being in our bodies and honoring our feelings, we can improve all of these issues and more. That’s the goal of somatic therapy.


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Topics Covered

  • Angelika’s journey into somatic and sexual healing work


  • Getting out of your head and into your body


  • Creating space from our emotions to safely integrate pain


  • How to locate your wounds


  • Client stories from Angelika’s work


  • What happens in a typical somatic healing session?


  • Moving out of a toxic relationship framework


  • How to know if you’re in a toxic relationship or healing relationship


  • Learning new skills to succeed in sex and relationships


  • Holding more complexity with care


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Ep. 565 - How To Move From Toxic Relationships And Sex To Healing Relationships And Sex