How To Train Our Minds To Be Happier

Episode 734 1h 20m


We are a culture obsessed with happiness, except we’ve been going about it all wrong. Before I became a doctor, I actually studied Buddhism. I wanted to understand the root of human suffering, and through that, understand the way to create happiness.

On today’s episode, I’m excited to talk to Dan Harris about the science of happiness, how to deal with the challenges of modern-day life, and how to create more happiness for ourselves and for those around us. We kick off our conversation by talking about Dan’s recent trip to India, where he spent two weeks with His Holiness, the Dalai Lama. Dan and I talk about the most important key to happiness, which according to the Dalai Lama, is our connection to other people. Relationships are truly at the core of a long and healthy life.

The longest-living and most joyous people in the world all share one common trait: a sense of community. When we have a tribe to lean on, it gives us a sense of belonging, connection, and worth outside of ourselves that can open up a wealth of possibilities. Distraction is now an epidemic globally, and we know from the science that a distracted mind is an unhappy mind. We are also more isolated and alienated than ever, and that has led to huge upticks in anxiety, depression, addiction, loneliness, and suicide.

Dan explains that happiness is a skill, and we can actually train our brains for happiness through simple mindfulness practices like meditation. We also discuss one of the key takeaways from Dan’s time with the Dalai Lama, which is the concept of wise selfishness. It means recognizing that we are both hardwired to be self-interested and we are social animals, programmed for compassion, collaboration, and connection.

Dan explains how acting in generous and altruistic ways makes you happier than solely focusing on yourself. We also talk about what self-criticism and judgment of others does to our biology, and how meditation can help us work through these things. Happiness doesn’t have to be something you either have or you don’t—just like your health, it’s something you can work on. I hope you’ll tune in to learn more about embracing mindfulness habits that promote more joy and contentment in your own life.


This episode is brought to you by Rupa Health, MitoPure, Nordic Natural, and Apollo. The Doctor’s Farmacy podcast works with a select group of sponsors to allow for ongoing production and allow it to be zero-cost to anyone who wishes to listen to and watch the podcast.

Topics Covered

  • The misinterpretation of an incident with the Dalai Lama shown in a recent viral video


  • How to be happier and healthier


  • Wise selfishness


  • The neurobiology of altruism


  • How to train your brain for happiness


  • The connection between psychedelics and meditation


  • How Dan’s life has changed from meditation


  • Meditation as one component of trauma therapy


  • Self-criticism and judgment of others


  • Dan’s experience spending time with the Dalai Lama


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Automatically generated. Please forgive any typos or errors in the following transcript. It was generated by a third party and has not been subsequently reviewed by our team.

Introduction: Coming up on this episode of the Doctor's Farmacy.

Dan Harris: This is the lever that the data suggests is most important to pull if you're trying to get healthier and happier.

Dr. Mark Hyman: Hi, it's Dr. Mark Hyman. Now today's podcast with Dan Harris explores the importance of mindfulness meditation for our wellbeing and happiness. And as part of our discussion, we talk about his recent trip to Dharamshala India to meet with the Dalai Lama, as well as his free online 10 part series on meditation and Buddhism. Now, after this podcast was recorded, a widely watched viral video of the Dalai Lama was released online that was highly disturbing to many who watched it. Now I've seen the short..

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Ep. 734 - How To Train Our Minds To Be Happier